- I told them because they need to know
- I did not tell them bc I did not want my kids resenting him/her
Your ex broke up your marriage by cheating... did you tell your kids the truth, or did you help your ex save face in their eyes?
What Girls Said 1
I think it would depend on their age or maturity level. Also, I would discuss it with the ex. Regardless of if we're together or not, I would still want to consult with one another regarding things that could greatly affect our children.
What Guys Said 5
I've seen kids turn so bitter and resentful toward the offending parent and toward life in general. I think that kind of knowledge can be so toxic to kids.
Even if you say something fairly neutral like "mommy said she didn't love me anymore" it alerts kids that mommy might not love 'me' anymore someday.
Wait until they're old enough to understand adult relationships.
Obviously you're a lot older than I but if I was in your position, and maybe this would change if I really was, but I feel I would tell them. Not because they need to know but because I feel that if they knew they would just have an overall better understanding of why you aren't together any more. My parents are still together but apparently kids sometimes blame themselves for why their parents ended up getting divorced so if you told them why that happened they wouldn't blame themselves.
Hasn't happened, but I don't think I'd tell them.
similarly if marriage broke up over lack of sex (more likely) I would try really hard not to mention that was why, and just lie. though i suspect she'd say crap and i'd end up having to either slam her or look guilty.
Ideally i don't think your sex life is something your kids need to know the details on.
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