My ex didn't treat me all that great.. he was rude to me, would start fights over nothing and then try to manipulate me.
He broke up with me last month because he thought one of my colleagues was flirting with me and he got angry when I said my colleague was not flirting. I told him even if my colleague was flirting it doesn't matter because I would never do anything, I'm committed to my boyfriend and it really doesn't matter. He's attractive too and gets hit on a lot by other girls and I told him that.. but it didn't bother me because I knew if I let it bother me it would ruin our relationship.
So he broke up with me anyway, through text, wouldn't respond to my phone calls and refused to speak to me. I was really hurt and upset but after a couple of weeks I knew it was best for me because he was a manipulative, childish jerk.
Yesterday I was at the same store as him and i walked right by him and ignored him. I didn't think we should speak especially after the way he broke up with me. but then he came over to me to sat hi... I didn't want to speak to him and i told him we didn't have to.. he said he'd like to at least be civil and say hi.. so I said "hi" and walked away. I heard him say "that was awkward"
Anyway I usually won't talk to exes after bad breakups... but what do you people do?
- pretend I don't know him/her and completely ignore him/herVote A
- Say "Hi" only if he/she crosses my path and i can't avoid itVote B
- Say "hi" if he/she comes over to say hiVote C
- go out of my way to say "hi" and make small talkVote D
- tell him/her to fuck offVote E
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Ha, me and my ex broke up a month ago and he treated me badly throughout the break up. We're kind of on better terms, though we keep arguing. We arranged to meet up a couple times but for some reason, I end up kicking off at him, I guess because I'm still really hurt. He seems keen on seeing me but it just never happens and I feel like he doesn't deserve to see my face - I haven't taken a new selfie in ages, probably for that reason.
I don't think I would ignore him if he said hey (though I would do it just to get back at him for being so cold and heartless towards me, depends on my mood), but I most likely wouldn't say hi first, maybe in a year or so. I would most likely lay low and if he didn't notice me then I'd just carry on with what I was doing or purposely walk in view of him and see how he reacts. If I was looking really hot that day, then I would definitely try to get his attention and give the "LOOK WHAT YOU LOST!" attitude, haha. I guess the best revenge would be to approach them with a huge smile, coming across very happy and asking how they are, like it doesn't phase you.
But I can't say until I was in the situation. The second time I saw my other ex, I ran away, hid and then left the club but he was the abusive one and seeing him brought back too many bad memories and I didn't want to get caught in his charm again. I also predicted it to be immensely awkward because we'd been arguing.
I think what you did was fair! If you don't like talking to ex's after bad break-ups, then that's your way of living.1