We've been together 9 years. He's raised my 10 year old son. Not married, but in a relationship. Last Sunday he told me he cheated on me in 2012. I had no idea. I forgave him. We've been best friends and (I thought) very honest and open with eachother during our relationship and I truly believe he loves me. We're expecting a daughter in July. We own a house and he's now told me he thinks we should break up. He's not seeing anyone else now. He's going on that he's not going to move out (financially we can't do that now) & he'll stay a few months after our daughter comes. He's been very affectionate and he's trying to be supportive any way he can. He says I love you and I can't even say it back. How can I? I have no idea wtf is going through his head. I'm wondering if maybe having a daughter is freaking him out and prompting all of this from him? Will he come around after she's here? Any guys with kids go through this? Any women? I'm just very distraught about all of this!
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If you were married, he would have thought 5 times before jumping to such a decision. And even then, would have to take the responsibility. Now, face it !!! Sorry. I'm old school and I have zero tolerance for certain things that have become the norm. Of course I am in the minority in GAGville so you will find plenty others to sympathize with you.2
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It appears, rhymingvixen, that he has surpassed the "Seven year itch," and now with another bun in the oven, he is suddenly getting cold feet With------Maybe having a daughter is frwaking him out and prompting all of this from him...
I find that he is being cold as a fish and even though he tries to be all lovey dovey, all the affection and kissy pooing will not make up for the cold hard facts that he is Not being supportive, is possibly leaving you eventually with all the headaches and heartaches and might I also add, the Responsibilities of a 10 year old and now a babe in Toy land... he is a coward to boot and is just running away because he is feeling trapped in this reality that is turning out to be Not only his own Twilight Zone but yours here, dear.
You have time before the little one is due and even after the fact, some more time to kill. You both need to try and pull together before this bough breaks and the cuddling and the cradle breaks.
Thank your lucky stars you are not married. This would even be more of an added stress situation that would definitely be complicated for all who is concerned.
He has to realize you have not only a roof with responsibilities but two little ones that he can't and mustn't just abandon but keep under his wing.
If he decides to go, make sure you speak to social services or a lawyer and find out what your rights are. If he plans on someday abandoning the ship, make sure this cagey captain doesn't end up a dead beat dad because who knows if you can even trust him with anything anymore.
Good luck and blessings for the rest of 2015. xx4