Most Helpful Guy
Wow tough break. It sounds like he opted out of the adult life of responsibilities. Just go the ultimatum route. Something needs to whip him out of the hole he's in!
Most Helpful Girl
You are Not being 'Shallow,' you have every right to feel like this here, dear, and with a loafer to boot, someone who won't even take pride himself to even clean not only his life up but his Own Self Up doesn't Deserve------I'm a girl that works 12 days on and 2 days off split shifts every day...
Time to get your life in order and make some plans. You have everything put together and you don't need to be some low life's Enabler or life support that is sucking the money and life out of you, weighing you down like an anchor and eventually sinking your own life boat.
Begin your beguine by arranging some different living quarters, where when it is time to pack up, lock, stock and barrel, you have a place to go. Sit him down, tell him where you stand and what you plan on doing and do Not deter from your goals or your new plans to Enable yourself to stay with this loser.
He is in a rut, doesn't want to bother to find work because he knows he has you as his life savor. Don't let him cry to you about "What am I supposed to do now?" You tell him he has had plenty of opportunities to do something and with the way he is taking care of his own hygiene these days, shows me and should show you, he doesn't plan on doing anything to change anything but continue down this beaten path.
If Lazy Bones gets 'Angry,' also tell him he has a Big World in which to get over it, and to get off his bum and go Out in this 'Big world' and start to do something resourceful.
He will never change, just get worse. You need someone who is like yourself with motivation and mind set to be on the ball... this schmo is not it.
Good luck. xx