I tried for so long to be a part of his life, he always kept me at arms distances. Was very friendly and at times flirty... But never acted on any of it, if I bought something up about hanging he's always to busy. But with other women he has no problem going to chill eat lunch, have dinner , just all together showing genuine interest... Me I had to work like a slave to get half of the attention he showed them. I took a breather for a while , I realized I couldn't go on jumping through hoops for a piece of affection some sought of clarity to a long 3year flirting friendship... So I woke up and realized he doesn't really like me like that and the past 3years was all my imagination. So I had to work through some issues cause I still liked him of course but did not want deal with anymore heart break... So I figured I'll stay away from him until I get a grip on reality. Now I think I can handle just being friends.... This guy is acting cold and out of character with me...also he's dating some one too or I suspect like another girl at the place we work so I get the cold shoulder, he can have her... I just don't know what to do about this cause it's unfair, I was the one there??help me get past this
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All can tell u is that it takes time. I know u dont wanna hear that but just let time heal u. And try finding somebody that really wants your attention. U see I'm kinda I the spot your in now I fell in love for the first time in my life and I fell hard af. And now she's acting different and a little distance towards me even thou she told me I had a chance of being with her or that she liked me and that I inspire her or that she wished her boyfriend was like me. And even thou she told me that she wanted to break up with him for college because they are going to differnt schools. And he confirmed that he wants to end it with her for collge also. It's just that she is the only girl I ever opened up to. I turned down so may girls just because I had feelings for her and wanted to show her that she was the only girl I would settled down for. I mean falling for her has changed me In so many ways. She changed me for the better. She even change the topic in the music I make. Now all I right are love songs or songs about being heart broken and she's all I think about, it's like even with all these women that want to get with me I ignore them because I want her. but you say 3 years I can only image the pain and heart break. I've only know this girl 8 months and it hurts like fuck. I mean that feeling of knowing that you gotta move on when you ache for a certain someone u want nothing more than to be with is painful af. I only wish I could help you because I know the pain. I'll even admit that I've sat in my room and cried at the thought of not be able to be with her. All I want to do is make her happy and love her unconditionally. but life isn't fatily tale right😔. but try to stay busy and meet new people to keep your mind off him. U know they say the oak u feel now is nothing compared to the joy that's coming. So keep your head held high and move on. I know it's a lot harder than it sounds because I'm here giving you advice that I can't follow becaue Im still in love with her.
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