We met in September '13. became official very quickly, we're both in the same age range (she just turned 28 and I'm 29.) We moved very fast, Everything clicked and just made perfect sense. We made an informed the informed but quick decision to move in together by November. She moved in, and i more or less caught her trying to hide a conversation she was having with someone she was talking to right before meeting me. I was firm but forgiving. Flash forward to recently up to now. she had continually lied about talking to exes, deleting the conversations, etc. Not to say i didn't do anything wrong. Gradually i began to feel insecure and didn't ever truly come to trust her completely again, it had also taken me a long time to be open about my family life and things that had happened which caused me to lie about a few things as well. Feb of this year i had discovered that she had been talking to and trying to cover up her talking to exes again, it was a huge blow out, after both of us considering breaking up, we agreed wanted to coninue working the problems out. At this point we had argued extensively, began drifting aprt, sex eventually went, strained communication and we were just not happy but wanted it to work. until the defining moment.
Last weekend we were to go to Canada for her bday. long story short, i didn't receive my passport, i had just dislocated my elbow the week prior and so i stayed back and she went. I knew the dynamic had officially changed at this point. I set up a surprise for her to return to on Tuesday night, she got home late and was tired. Inbthe morning it seemed fine but we didn't talk much after i went to work. I get off work and she breaks up with me. citing that all of the arguments, my mistrust, and how she acts wasn't healthy and that she had always been in a relationship and doesn't know who she is outside of one. She wanted to be completely indep
Most Helpful Girl
She needs to grow up.
She's getting to the age where her biological clock is starting to tick.
She should want to settle down... build a family, start a career.
Since she's been sneaky for a great amount of your relationship it isn't far fetched for one to think she has been cheating all along.
Let her go.
In due time you will see that it was the best decision ever.
All she will give you is hurt.. You don't need that
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Most Helpful Guy
She is self centered and not so good for you.
Let her go , though she will regret one day. She has high expectations from life and will never be satisfied with what she has. And of course we all know how talking to exes is not a healthy way to start a new relation and here seems like it got eaten away slowly.
There's not much you ll say which she ll listen to and understand. She is convinced by the outer world and she thinks its her decision and also she is self righteous.
But of course you should try to save it.
Talk to her about the trip in a fun way, etc. Hows life, what had she imagined her life 2 years before today? ( it ll help u see her disappointment or contention with life as of now) .
Then whatever she says.. Ask her what's the matter, that whatever she is saying is alright but you can see it in her face that something is off and she is not happy. Get it out lf her.
See of she breaks and tells you or maybe just hints you whatever it is she's not happy with.
If you think you can fix it cool. If it feels like something which would reoccur then its better to have it her way and break up.
But she ll regret some day, that i can give u.