i have hurt him and left him before and i apologized and wanted to get back to him because i love him but he was still sad and said he needs time to think , at this time i got frustrated and talked and went out with my ex bf , my boyfriend called me that day and i didn't pick up because i was with my ex and i was afraid he will find out, and then i went out again with my ex , all that was only in 4 days while my sweet and honest boyfriend was trying to forgive me for the hurt i have already caused him. He found out all that , at first i lied a lot to cover it up,but he didn't believe me and asked to see our messages and conversations in order to believe me, but of course i couldn't show him anything :'(. which hurt him even more,and made him completley confused and hurt ,since then he has been brutally sad, i called him a lot ,and i apologized, he pushed himself to meet me, he tried to forget , but all the time he kept asking me questions and couldnt be ok at all , he says he can't trust me again, and that he was already trying to push himself to forgive me for leaving him before , and now this happened so he is really suffereing , i was so sad that i hurt him, i really love him and wanted to make everything up for him but he couldnt,he found it so hard to meet me ,it has been three weeks now since he found out, do i give him more time ? or what should i do , he is si hurt but still will call me from time to time but then he feels he can't and stop again . He is so loyal, sweet and kind , he definitely didn't deserve all that hurt
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I don't understand why you would go and meet ur ex? really?
Even chatting with ex is not a good idea for ur current relationship, most people refrain from it and just try to forget.
Poor guy, letme tell you one thing that he is around you know, the day its enough for this soul to see its better to move on, u will regret it very bad. And no body will seem to compare with him.
No you don;t need to give him time, he just suffers in all that time.
You just need to reach out to him, just love him so much (i mean express) .
Talk with him, the more you try to put effort to make him happy, easier and quickly he ll be fine. He ll ask u questions, and u have to answer them patiently while convincing him that how much u love him and ur ex means nothing to you ( It was really a shit move by u, i wonder y u went to meet him?).
the more he ll talk and u talk back lovingly, he ll alright preety soon, maybe then and there.
just make effort to talk, and dont just think that time will heal!
It will heal but drive u apart slowly and slowly.
also promise him something like u wouldn't meet him again, u don't have any business with him anyway.
Learn to self police ur self , relationship is a constant effort throughout.
If ur not up for it, leave him, he deserves better.0