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Lena19, let me assure you that it sadly is possible that a man who becomes an "ex" can sometimes chase and not wake up and see that it really is over. An ex is generally labelled an ex for a reason. I speak from personal experience, as I had an awful encounter 2 years ago. It's definitely 2 years ago because that was the length of time I was granted by a court to place a restraining order on him for being verbally and mentally abusive towards me, my family, my friends, some who he never had met or known at all.
I'm okay to reveal this story:
I refused sex from this same asshole and was further raped as a result of saying no to him. My pleas with him to end the nightmare relationship then had him texting me, calling me, threatening me - all day, and all night which he got new numbers after I repeatedly blocked each one of his mobile numbers and anything else you can imagine that occurred for at least a solid 2 months with more trails of abuse later found in my Facebook "others" folder, and all while my mum was dying of cancer. So, yes... I can make it very very clear that men often can be cold, callous bastards and not want to let things be.
Control freaks like my ex boyfriend, (who incidentally racked up a very large number of restraining orders from various other girls after me) is quite the psychotic sort that likely would be threatening something along the lines of: "No way can my girlfriend leave me...", "I can't accept her walking out and leaving...", "I must not let her go at all costs...". "She is not allowed to break up with me" etc etc.
I mean, maybe your ex isn't psychotic like the nutcase I dealt with, but if he doesn't get it loud and clear you want him gone and out of your life, say to him exactly what it is you don't want, say you don't want to talk, you want to move on, and moving on doesn't involve him. If he becomes a real prick and things get out of hand, block his number and ask him not to contact you in any other way after you block him.1