Ok so my bf and I are going through a tough time. August 19 would be a 4 year anniversary however our relationship status is complicated! The only really problems in our relationship is that he says we argue too much and I say that we have enough quality time together bc we have a 2 year old son. We've tried a break which didn't work because of me. Now he says he needs time to think and for now we are broken up but we still live together, which to me makes no sense. The things he does more for me now that we are broken up and he texts me faster than he normally would. I know that he isn't cheating on me. My dilemma is after the break things got worse. This is most we ever fought in the 6 years that I've known him.
I've made my last cry for reconcile but he says he needs to think about because he doesn't know if the arguing will end if we officially get back together. How many of you guys believe in second chances? Neither one of us cheated! We are just having a rough patch as all couples to do! I need advice and I know it's a lot to read. HELP!!!
- Everybody makes mistakes. You deserve second chanceVote A
- Things would have to change firstVote B
- Second chances? What the hell are those?Vote C
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14 years ago this month I got engaged to my wife. I was 38, she was 44 and we were shacking up living together for 17 months. Her divorce was finalized a few weeks earlier so she wanted to marry me soon. I was leery because we argued a lot. However, we took a pre-dawn walk and I told her that I wanted her to make a concerted effort to not argue. Once she promised that, I agreed. We did get married and Lord knows how many times I heard "I hate you" from her or divorce threats from each of us, it really settled down because we've rubbed off on each other. Our history together helped make us understand each other and tolerate and respect differences. What keeps the bond is the mutual loyalty and being there for each other. Yeah, it was and still can be tough, but the differences that lead to arguments fades away as long as there are compromises from each person every now and then.. Also, the more you know and understand each other including mostly their needs, things should work out. They did for me and it will be 14 years married on August 4th and 16 years a couple this Thanksgiving.1