My ex boyfriend of 1 year broke up with me out of the blue. I know he had some issues about his past relationship but this happened so suddenly, i never thought he'd do that. He claimed that he's not ready for a relationship and wish to have some time apart. But he still wants us to be friends. He would sometimes texts me asking how i am and even run into each other once of twice. ( He had transfered to my uni after the break up)
At first i thought he's an ass for doing this to me and i decided to forget about him and move on. But one day i ran into him at school and then only i knew from him that he will study here in my uni from now on. We talked for a while, and he hugged me and left. This changes everything... whenever i see him in school he will always greet me with a big smile and i can feel he's happy to see me somehow.
I hate the fact that i have to admit i still love him, after how much he reminded me the times we're together. How everything used to be but now we're nothing more than friends. I wanted him to be clear to me. So i texted him one night, telling him how i felt..
He said it will take time. He knew that im not over him, and said i could just ignore him if i dont feel well when i see him again at school. And he said he'll give me time to move on. And when i do, talk to him again so we can be friends.
What is he thinking? Seriously, it hurts me so bad.. What do he want from me? I will never be able to move on while he's stuck here in my life. I can't put him down. Help, what should i do? :'(
Guys, just letting you know that thanks so much for leaving all your opinions. I've been feeling a lot better lately cuz Im pretty busy with school assignments and projects lately and its good, it distracted me from this mess. And hanging out with friends as u guys suggested works great.
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I have felt like that before. I just could never be only friends with a guy that I am in love with. I remember a guy who i was crazy in love with but i guess i loved him more than he loved me which is why it was easy for him to say he wanted to be friends. I just couldn't do it. I told him Im too in love so there is no way i could pretend that I am not and watch you date other girls or other girls flirt with you. I would hurt every single day if you kept me in your life only for me to just watch you move on with me still wanting you. I told him that it would feel like torture, the constant yurning for you and you not reciprocating.
I told him that I need time to get over him before i could just be friends and then he said that he understood. And I actually did get over him. I had to completely distance myself from him in order to do it. No seeing him or talking to him or anything because I wanted to make sure the feelings of me loving him were completely gone.
I ended up meeting someone else and fell in love and we are still together today. Distancing myself from that old guy was the best thing i could do becasue if he was still around in my life then there would be no way for me to meet my fiance because I would constantly be stuck on him, a guy who could never love me back, instead of meeting a guy that actually does want me and to marry me at that.2