I dated this guy for about 4 1/2 months last year. I really liked him and he said he really liked me. I wanted things to get a bit more serious and he freaked out. There was one night towards the end when he blurted out that he loved me. After that he was really distant and I didn't see him so much. He said we should take a break, which we did. After about 2 weeks of no contact he text me to say that I was amazing but that we both knew that I could do much better than him and so we should just call it quits. I was pretty furious and told him that was a load of BS. I didn't hear from him until he showed up at my apartment in the middle of the night unannounced about a month later. He told me he really cared for me and thought I was amazing and that he really wanted to try to make things work. He kept going on about how he wasn't good enough for me. I stupidly fell for that and he ended up staying the night. After that I didn't hear from him again. I text him a few days afterwards to tell him that he'd really hurt me and that I didn't want to hear from him ever again.
Then he text me last night. He said he was sorry we never got a proper chance to talk about everything that happened. He then offered to give me and my friends tickets to a sports game (he works in sports) as a way of apologising. He also finished the text by saying that he just afraid of real commitment. I text him back telling him that I wouldn't take him up on the offer and that I didn't see why he still couldn't just properly apologise for what he'd done. I also asked him why he decided to say all this 2 months later. What possible reason could he have for this? I really don't know how to process his text. I feel like he's trying to keep me on the hook for a time when he might possibly want a girlfriend or whatever. I just really feel like he owes me some closure and that it would be really helpful to sit down and chat. I dont' know how to get him to do that though, nor what I'm supp
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He could just be having confidence issues in him self. I went through a big phase of that last year and had an off off thing pretty close to this. I actually really did love the girl I was just really broken inside and had no confidence in my own choices. Was she right for me? Was I happy with her? so on and so forth those where the things in my head. Eventually I hurt her to the point where she stopped trusting my sincerity so when i was finally ready she just found me annoying and scary. You really have to talk to him and ask him whats going on and try to figure it out.0