My ex and I had the most beautiful relationship. The kind you see in movies. Then we had to establish a LDR and things began to fizzle once he had the time to do his thing and met a new group of friends which includes the girl he started to hang out with while we were on a break. The last couple of weeks of our relationship was hard because of the distance and different schedules. 2 days before our break up I spent an entire week with him and things were great. He even called me before I left his driveway telling me that I forgot something (him). That very same night he fell off the radar for 5 hours. I was upset but whatever. The next morning we spoke and then he disappeared for 17 hours. Because of the past... I told him that he needed to start respecting me more along with his family and that maybe he should think about us more. That I needed to be a priority like I used to be. So the first couple of days we bickered. We both expressed how much we loved each other. He said that he was going to do everything in his power to make this work. He also asked for space. I'm not going to lie I struggled with that. A week went by and I became under the impression that there was someone else so I asked. He said that he was taking someone else on a date who was there for him when I wasn't. I obviously flipped out. We were still together in my eyes. But he kept claiming that I left him. So then he turns on me saying it's over. He's done. Blah blah blah. I had or thought I had a friend where he lives who I contacted asking if she's seen him and this other woman. She says that she saw him and he told them all I broke up with him buy she didn't know there was someone else. Turns out she lied to me. It's her best friend who is with him now. And she told him everything I told her. She told him what was on my Facebook etc etc. He flipped on me for contacting his friends. Like I said I didn't know they were friends. He said he didn't love me anymore and that I need to cheer up and
A chance for reconciliation?
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I'm sorry you have to go through this. There are a few things that I find weird. Like why would he even feel the need to mention that he isn't sleeping with this new girl, and why would he say that there's no chance for you ""if you keep acting like this" when he's already with someone else.
The thing with LDR is that sometimes the other person does drop off the radar and to the other person it may seem like they're not making an effort, or like they aren't important to that person, or they simply feel excluded. I am in a long distance relationship (have been for two years now) so I know what it's like. But in truth, the other person is just trying to live his/her life and sadly, when there is the geographic distance, that does mean that they drop off the radar for a bit since they can't take you with them obviously. Could it be that you complained about this a bit too much and he couldn't handle it anymore?
I don't know what to tell you, I can't know if there's a chance for you two in the future. How far apart do you live? Would there theoretically be a way for you to move there (assuming that things work out again)?
I think that when you see him you should just behave naturally. Don't try to plan something because that's never good. Will his mother be around for all of it, so you won't really have a chance to talk to him privately?0
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