I broke up with him because he had a shitty temper and attacked me for everything; I wasn't allowed to voice an opinion, I was expected to give up sex because it was my "duty" as his girlfriend, and he constantly told me how he wished I was x-y-and-z.
To boost my self esteem, I got really fit and took better care of my appearance, got better at my job and improved my relationships with my friends. I realized quickly that I didn't need him, and kicked him out. Oh yeah, did I mention he lived with me and had no job?
Now he won't leave me alone. First, I was never good enough, now I'm suddenly perfect and he needs me. I've been holding firm and sent him the rest of his stuff but he keeps harassing me. He keeps telling me I need to forget the past, give him another chance, and teach him to change. I don't feel I want to, but all of this pressuring is almost confusing me into thinking maybe I should.
So, was I right to break up with him? Or are you supposed to fight tooth and nail for your relationship, no matter what?
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He sounds very unstable and dangerous. You were ABSOLUTELY right in breaking up with him, and please, under NO circumstances, do not get back together with this man.
You've worked hard to build your self esteem, so please try and maintain your self-respect. This guy is emotionally abusive and it could become physical at any time. He's controlling, manipulative and extremely immature. Do you really want this in your life, and do you really see a future with someone like this? I don't.
Please be careful and cut off all contact with him. If you have to, change your door locks and your phone number. Also, block him from all your social media sites.
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