I was in a whatevership with a girl (28) and I am 38. We both have children the same age, 10. We pregressed in this relationship with very good vibes. Became intimate often after 1 month. As this progressed she never really would express her feelings verbally. However, her actions said she cared about me. She had a friend come out of a relationship and I could tell she giving her a lot of attention in lew of me. No problem, but then out of the blue she says she not being fair to me by not giving me 100%. I said my piece and told her good luck in life.
She is not one to talk about her feelings. so her first message to me was she really wanted the children to get together and play sometime, but the children go to the same school and play with each other all the time. My question is could she possibly just be using this " playdate" to get closer to me since I have not been contacting her?
That is only correspondence and I told her sure that would be fine. I just don't want to be a safety net. Would love her to just tell me she has been silly and w would like to make us work. Just hope I know.
Most Helpful Girl
That's a lot similar to the situation I'm in now. although I didn't express my self, he dumped me but never seemed uninterested since. He snap chatted me before on of his games. Like why that's not necessary. I haven't figured out what to do yet. I think I'll eventually, just text him and start a conversation. And the whole, pay date to get closer could absolutely be her motive, if you still want her go for it. If not don't waste your time.1
Most Helpful Guy
Not sure, but I think there's something to her suggesting the kids get together and play; especially since they go to school together.
Maybe she feels she jumped the gun and realizes what a great guy you are. As long as she didn't split with you so she could date someone else and truly was just processing things, then it's up to you to also think about possibly reconciling, because you need to ask yourself if you're willing to go through this with her again.
Depending on what she says, make sure you let her know she either needs to commit or you can't be a relationship of convenience for her.1