My husband and I have a loveless, careless, boring marriage. I have asked for a divorce multiple times to no avail. He's very controlling and narcissistic and obviously I'm no angel but I can say I have been honest with my unhappiness... to no avail.
Last week was my birthday and my sister's planned to take me out to dinner and arcade games. As soon as I left the house, my husband basically told me to order my dinner and call him so he can pick me up cutting my night short. I felt how controlling that was that I refused to do it. Every hour after that he was blowing up every one of my sister's phone which I ignored. I had a baby sitter ready so he can also do what he wanted in peace but he cancelled with her and decided to mess up my night. I couldn't eat in peace, nor enjoy more time with them. All just because he wanted me as miserable as him at home, bored although he only had himself to blame.
He and my sister were conversing and he began ranting to her about me. I hate that! We don't talk on a day too day basis yet he'll complain and make me look bad to her. She told him if we weren't committed all the way we should divorce but he needs to step it up and make things right. Later on that night, he randomly told me my sister said we should divorce. HE didn't say she also suggested fixing our marriage. In your perception, is this a way of saying that's what he wants?
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I have a cousin who is married to a man in the army, oolala18. She has been having problems with him for over 5 years now, and finally to the point, where she was forced to put her and the children, one of them a newborn, in a domestic violence shelter. With the help of the shelter, she then took the children, got her self a lawyer and came from Georgia to Upstate and started a new life with the family. She made all her provisions with the help of friends and family close by and even afar and in between, has gone back and forth to Georgia to fight for custody of her kids and to divorce his sorry butt... he is unstable and a scarey individual, which with someone like this, you have to look over her shoulder every minute of the day.
It's time to pack up, lock, stock and barrel. Get a restraining order against him if you feel he may hunt you down like a rabbit, then go be with your sister or even a friend or a family member.
The older he gets, the worse he will get. He doesn't sound like he is all wrapped up tight. He isn't Trying to do anything in "Fixing this marriage' and is this Tyrant and straw boss who you could regret being with someday and in some... ugly and terrifying way which will Deal with more than "Blowing up every one of my sister's phone..."
Good luck and God's blessings. xx1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE