Most Helpful Guy
Telling him anything could cause him to erupt. Your safety and peace of mind is more important than being verbally assaulted and hopefully not physically accosted.
People like this control freak will do and say anything and everything to make you feel as bottom of the barrel as possible to make you think you should be thanking the heavens this person has the compassion to be with you. Well, it's actually the other way around. This guy is miserable, hates himself and only feels better by bringing people down to feel as shitty as he does about himself.
Trying to be rational with an irrational person usually doesn't end well, and you'll only end up being insulted and walk away feeling very hurt. This guy does not deserve a nice explanation from you, but deserves to have his ass kicked out of your life for good.
Once he realizes the verbal assaults don't work, he'll change his methods and be nice as anyone on the planet, telling you he's changed and how much better things will be because he's a "new man". Well, fuck that, he's full of shit, and you're going to sign up for more pain and drama if you fall for it.
Kick his ass to the curb, and don't look back. His actions are reason enough for you to shut the door on him and you own him nothing beyond this point.1
Most Helpful Girl
like everyone here is saying, leave his ass NOW. i didn't recognise these signs in my MARRIAGE. he was always accusing me of things i didn't say or do, belittling me at every turn. i felt worthless and low. i was isolated from friends and family. it NEVER gets better. be GLAD you saw this side of him NOW, instead of later. if he gets 'huffy' or threatens you in any way, document EVERYTHING, and get an order of protection if needed. what he showed you was the TIP of the iceberg. verbal hurts worse than ANY slap they can inflict. trust and bank on that! imagine how things COULD go, and run, far far away from this person. just let things die down and don't answer his texts anymore. it's safer and easier.0