How do you react when your ex shows up at a place you frequent with their new significant other?
Recently had an ex come to the place where we initially met with her new significant other. I wasn't really paying attention but when I did recognize it was her I just acted as if nothing happened and carried on with what I was doing and left.
Should I have handled this differently? How would you act? Was this an attempt to get reaction? Or am I reading too much into it? (would like to note we don't even live in the same country, so this is a pretty difficult thing to pull off on accident)
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds like she is deliberately trying to get your attention to see that she's moved on. She wants to show off the new guy she's with so that you know she ended up with "life after you". A bit of game-playing on her part if this was deliberate! But for you, you did exactly the right thing and ignore her. You never know if the guy is a jealous type and could have ruined everyone's day if you made it apparent of who you were. Had she cased you out and tried to introduce you to him, then it would have been an indicator that she doesn't want enemies and everyone on her side seems okay with you two meeting (you and the new guy).
If it seems like an accident, and who knows, it could be because maybe she showed up some place that was just familiar to her and she liked it, then again, your move of ignoring her was correct.
People do funny things with their exes to try and get a bit of revenge and one of them might just be, "Oh look, see how I've moved on? See how good looking the guy is that I have now?" If I'm reading too much in to it, sorry - but depending on her personality type and history of this sort of behaviour, only you would know best since you dated her if she's all about appearances and attention.0
Most Helpful Guy
You handled it perfectly. I'm sure saying "hello" would have been fine, too, but if you were uncomfortable seeing her with someone else, then there really wasn't any sense in making yourself feel more awkward.
What's amazing is you living in a different country and running into her. Were you visiting family and/or friends?2