- right thing, let it play out
- wrong thing, didn't give it a chance... really sad depressed face...
Most Helpful Guy
You miss being with someone; that doesn't necessarily mean you miss HIM. When you meet the right guy, you won't act hot-and-cold towards him; you'll always want to be with him. This particular guy is feeling it for you, but you're clearly not reciprocating, so don't waste his time. You'll meet plenty of other guys who are right for you, so don't stress over that.1
Most Helpful Girl
It's a case of "He said, she said" and War of the Roses, Happy Tardigrade, where One of you is ready but the other one is Not raring and without it being etched in stone here, dear-----What's wrong with me?
I know exactly what you are going through, I go through it all the time. You are this fickle pickle who isn't sure of being in a Real relationship with someone and everytime someone is moving too fast, you grow cold duck feet and wander quickly back into your murky muddle brain waters.
And of course, when the shoe is on the other webbed foot, when you feel it's not this chase nor challenge now where you are thinking "Now that we aren't together I miss him AGAIN," it's because he is now this apple at the top of the tree, hardest to grab and to get and you can't... forget. However, the minute you have him back into your trusty clutches, it's a full circle pattern of "Here we go again around the mulberry bush."
As long as you are like this and I am not just saying with just this poor sap, but with Any guy, you will always have problems. My best advice and I have even told this to myself is just stay friends, nurse and nurture a friendship and if it feels like magic and fireworks, then you can begin your beguine... of getting all worked up about him and a potential partnership. This will avoid a lot of redrick with a relationship and hurt feelings as well.
Any normal guy with feelings and a heart beat will get frustrated playing games with someone who is not sure of anything in life but death and taxes. It's not fair to them and it isn't healthy and after awhile, believe me, it can become a problem child pattern.
Good luck. xx2