He has been in her life for a long time. Other times we broke up he stayed in her life and we got back together eventually. But he says he is done for good this time, I don't know if I should let him stay in her life or not. Some say it is a ploy to stay close to me others say he's just trying to be there for my daughter. But if he is done wouldn't it be healthier in the long run for us all to sever ties? I'm confused, I don't want my daughter to be hurt by this she is only 8 years old. I need advice, please help!
- Sever TiesVote A
- Let him stayVote B
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Is her real add in her life? How long have you been together? If he has been part of her life for a long time, he has genuinely developed fatherly feelings for her.
How involved does he want to be? Can you accept his friendship and company for some events in her life?
I think this is touchingly awesome, but I can see it would be hard on you. At her age, assuming he was there for her early years, he is a father figure.
You need to evaluate what is best for her, a clean break or letting him be there sometimes for her. One thing to consider is if he gets another GF, she may not be willing to tolerate him in contact with an ex about a child who isn't even his and he may break ties anyway. At least that would be a less hurtful and more gradual severing of ties.
We're it me, I would lay out some ground rules and find out how involved he wants to be. Birthdays and Christmas? Pick up after school for ice cream? These would be cool.0