So who normally is expected to break the no contact rule?
Boy/ Girl? Dumper/Dumpee? The one who was angry/ or the other party?
See this mind baffling thing happened to me
I broke up with someone, not actually sure it not considered a breakup if we weren't officially dating. "but we were recognized as a couple"
The mind baffling thing was it's been almost a year since I dumped him and I overheard his friend, talking about me
it went a little like this
His friend: Well she was mad at him about "something" that was a while ago, I mean she should be over it by now. I'm not sure why she hasn't contacted him yet
Stranger "Mutual Party" = She probably won't talk to him until he talks to her
His Friend: I Don't know I think she's just f**ki with his head
Baffling: Haven't talked to him or even attempted in almost a year "So how am I messing with his head"
I left because some of his friends were really disrespectful so having someone sit next to me and question my authenticity "insult to injury"
When I left I was pretty clear: That I didn't appreciate the negative attention, rumors or disrespect and quite frankly there was no reason for our names to be in the same sentence
Pretty clear that everything we had is now out the window and that I don't tolerate that behavior I mean we're in college "Seriously "
Now you expect me to talk to him... Although he never reached out to me, apologized or anything of such sort but he misses you, so get over it.. O_O
Is it because I was the Dumper? Because I've been reading a lot that people expect the dumper to come back
But for anyone who reads this later. And/or responds to my personal background story
So I don't have to re explain myself
Before I dumped him, I tried to talk about it several times but he kept just ignoring my attempts
I really just want to hear, who normally is expected to...
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Nobody should break it. If the relationship didn't work, there is no reason going back to it. It will just end up hurting whoever ends up having a few lingering feelings, or whoever is feeling particularly lonely. And that's the answer to the person that breaks the 'rule'... the person that is feeling lonely. People that have successfully moved on, that have happy, fulfilling lives, have a rich, full life, and don't need to go back in time to try and relive a time that was more fulfilling, even if it was in a doomed relationship. They are the ones that 'remember the good times', and downplay the problems, because they are in a bad place and they look at it as an improvement.
Getting on with your life is not 'fucking with his head'. It's doing what should be done. It is only going to mess with his head if his head is fixated on the highlights of a past that seem better than the reality of the present. It's pretty clear that the problems you had before are STILL problems, given that they are still talking about you behind your back a YEAR later. That is flat out ridiculous.4
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