I am so incredibly in love with a man who is not good for my spirit.
I love this man so much. I would probably lay down my life for him. I have risked so much for him, to be the one taking care of his heart. We are broken up and in my mind I know it's right, but in my heart I just love him so much and it's taking everything I have in me not to text him and pour my heart out or show up on his doorstep and kiss him all over.
He has caused so much pain, stress, and drama. I can't bring him back into my life. I just can't... but the love I have for him is so powerful that I can barely even fight it. Please help me out. I don't know what to do. I love him sooo much. I'd let him have one of my eyeballs if he needed one. I really am at a lost for a solution... advice?
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Hon, you're putting this guy above yourself and I guess you have a nasty habit of filling your thoughts with him even though you're strong and logically know it's no good. I've been there and it sucks. The only way out is through. You have to fill your head with other puzzles and your time with other people. Get committed to something (a hobby or a charity/project), find something else to fix, something that matters! Meet new people and make a point of connecting with your nearest and dearest, regularly, to find out how they are doing. This should crowd out unwanted thoughts. Make a list of nearest and dearest and new people who matter and write about the positives they bring to your life. Don't put him on the list. Burn everything you have of his, delete his number, ask your mutual friends not to speak about him. Keep a journal of all the positive things you now have and all the things you are grateful for each day. Any or all of these options.
Right now, you are still young, but time gets away from you. Before you know it, all the good ones will be married or partnered up and will have kids with other women. Do NOT waste another second on this man, except to wish him the best on his path which is now separate from yours. I'm sure he will move on. People who hurt others are great at survival. Don't find yourself pining, resentful and single with a ticking biological clock while he has met someone new, cleaned up his act and started a family. You will regret it forever. This applies to all the men who do not last in your life.
The right one will find you when you are doing what you most care about and you are living a fulfilled and passionate existence. Don't make him wait, hon! Get out there and be a superstar!