On Thursday and I'm not sure if we are on a break or its over or even if I can win her back. I'll lay it out for you. She said we broke up because she isn't happy but I don't believe that as when we are together she's always happy and laughing and affectionate. It all happened over text as she couldn't meet me as she said it would be too hard. Then agreed to do so on Saturday, but I said I couldn't as I was going out with friends. As I've been a broken man since it happened and they wanted to cheer me up. She went mental about this and it ended on bad terms. Only to be followed an hour later by a text saying she told her little girl she wouldn't be seeing me no more and she cried and wouldn't talk to her. This made me cry as I read it and said I could meet up friends every now and then and slowly fade away. She said she wasn't sure. I told her I loved her and always would do and I'm always here for her and honestly if I couldn't make her happy I hope she finds a guy who can and I'd wish them the best. But she said she just wants alone time. Her mum said we shouldn't do anything silly and just have a break so I said I'd be happy with that as I just want her back. I've left her alone since Saturday afternoon but I just want to speak to her again even if only a text but is that going to push her away more? I know she's under a lot of stress with family and work but she always gets funny this time of the month. What do you think?
Most Helpful Girl
If she says she wasn't happy with the relationship, then there was something she didn't want in the relationship and it was enough to break up with you over.
of course, the only way to know the real reason is to talk with her about it in person. She may seem happy when she was with you but that doesn't matter bc she broke up with you of a sudden, right? I mean, if you don't even know why then how could you fix the issue? And maybe it has nothing to do with you and it's all her internal conflict. She says she's not happy and wants to be alone. I do agree that you should respect what she wants and leave her be but I think she should also respect your feelings. You want to be with her while she wants to be left alone, correct? Well, you two need to have one last conversation before leaving her alone. talk with her and both of you should agree to a time frame of how long she needs to be alone. After that time frame has passed, she will need to get back with you about the relationship And be willing to talk with you about it. SHE needs to contact you first about it.
i think doing this will be a good compromise for both of you. She gets her time alone and after that time you won't necessarily be back with her but you'll be able to talk with her about what you both want from there on. if she doesn't contact you after the agreed time then move on, because you deserve someone who will respect your feelings. If she's unsure about the while compromise and has to think about it and has to get back with you at a later date, something tells me she wants to be single to see If she can find someone better than you before settling down.
This is just a suggestion but i wish you good luck0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
Now look, she said she wanted alone time, so do what she wants and leave her alone. Very likely she'll take your messages as pressure on her, and react with anger.
Wait at least a couple of weeks before you even think of contacting her, unless of course she contacts you first. If she doesn't within that couple of weeks, it's very likely sayonara for good.
I have no idea WHY she broke up with you, but like you, I suspect it's something other than what she says.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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