My Husband and I have known each other since the 8th grade and have been married now for 4 years. We have 2 beautiful Children and a great all around family. The only problem is, I'm from a hard working "manly" family and am part owner of a very respected hard working Trucking Company & my husband has yes lived in the country but was raised by his very protective, emotional, loving, mother. My husband is a Great Dad and My Best Friend. However, when we fell in love we had NO responsibilities, we were free as anyone could be with an amazing free spirited group of friends. Now, 4 years later we have a beautiful home, family, and to some it up "responsibilities". I do well with those things because of my up bringing and from my years in the Marine Corps. My husband on the other hand does not. I feel like I need/want a man who can tell me what's wrong with my car, fix the gutters, build things, fix things, be "the man"... my husband is an emotional/loving Man, not a "fix it manly man" and I know that! That's why I fell in love with him! So why do I feel so... confused? Why do I want different now? I don't want to split up my family for my own wants... someone please give me your advice.
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"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need." - Tyler Durden
( Insert 'society is turning its men into women' diatribe here. )
But seriously, you're still thinking in terms of old gender roles. Society has empowered you to break away from that way of thinking and living. YOU be the one to fix the car and the gutters and so on. I'm sure on some level you have your hands full with your business; your husband should take on more responsibility for the sake of the family, but find things for him to do that he is relatively good at. Making dinner, the laundry, shopping, preparing gifts, driving the kids around to their events, going to parent-teacher conferences, etc... guys can do all those things too.
If he's sitting around not contributing and resisting your efforts to give him a kick in the butt, that's one thing, but if you can divide responsibilities in a way that makes you as a UNIT better, then who is doing what actually shouldn't matter. That's the 21st Century way of thinking anyway; I'm not saying I necessarily buy into that completely, but there it is.2