My Husband and I have known each other since the 8th grade and have been married now for 4 years. We have 2 beautiful Children and a great all around family. The only problem is, I'm from a hard working "manly" family and am part owner of a very respected hard working Trucking Company & my husband has yes lived in the country but was raised by his very protective, emotional, loving, mother. My husband is a Great Dad and My Best Friend. However, when we fell in love we had NO responsibilities, we were free as anyone could be with an amazing free spirited group of friends. Now, 4 years later we have a beautiful home, family, and to some it up "responsibilities". I do well with those things because of my up bringing and from my years in the Marine Corps. My husband on the other hand does not. I feel like I need/want a man who can tell me what's wrong with my car, fix the gutters, build things, fix things, be "the man"... my husband is an emotional/loving Man, not a "fix it manly man" and I know that! That's why I fell in love with him! So why do I feel so... confused? Why do I want different now? I don't want to split up my family for my own wants... someone please give me your advice.
Most Helpful Guy
The guy that fixes your car might fix other ladies cars and get paid in kind.
The guy that fixes the gutters might do the same for other ladies in the same way.
The guy who builds things might build things for other ladies...
Get what I'm saying?
The guy who loves you will love only you because of who you are. He will love you because you are a good wife and a good mother.
Make one mistake and it will haunt you forever.
Stick with the guy and be thankful you have a loving caring man. There are many men who aren't.
Take care and stay safe!!3
Most Helpful Girl
Because needs change. You met in the 8th grade, that was a totally different time. The reasons why you fell in love with him then, are the reasons your marriage is struggling now. Because needs change! In the 8th grade you needed different things than you do now. I think you two need to have a serious conversation about this. My parents divorced because even though they had issues, they refused to talk about them or address them. They just put them off and that is the worst thing you can do. You need to address this issue ASAP, before it becomes a bigger problem than it already is. Marriage counseling would be a good idea. Good luck.1