I caught my boyfriend cheating. We were together for 3 years. The man I used to love so much is now the man I despite. I don't want to see him or hear about him ever again. But it's been a month and I still often think about him and how much I hate him. I know I need to forgive him in order to set myself free and move on, but I simply can't... How do you deal with it? I need some good quotes that I can tell to myself every time this wave of hate splashes me over...
Most Helpful Guy
I hate it when people say "you need to forgive them to set yourself free."
Fuck that, I never forgave anyone who told me I couldn't lose weight and make something of my life.
I held onto that anger for years, I let it drive me forward when I went to the gym. I let it drive me forward when I was at business meetings.
Hate, can be VERY damn useful. There is no fuel that burns hotter on this Earth than hate.1
Most Helpful Girl
Just remember here, dear, even if you were to take him back tomorrow, you could Never Ever trust him again. You deserve better than this lousy loser and cheat sheet.
"When one door closes, another one opens..." Someday, after you have licked your war wounds and with time passing by, so will the hurt in your heart and the man that Thankfully... got away.
Good luck. xx0