Although he respects me and says he loves me, I realize he respects me to an extent... we have only been to his house for cuddling, movies, kissing etc. he knows with me, no sex until marriage but he often told me "your so sexy" or "cute" or "adorable" and that i kept turning him on, the way im putting it... He said it differently and that he couldn't help it (erection) but although we have been official for two weeks after 5 months, im beginning to question his intensions with me? He shows a lot of affection when we are together and often says he just can't help kissing my face, shoulder and hands.. And always gently rubbing my hands.. And we kiss. I acknowledge Most guys at 20 want sex out of the relationship? He knows i am a good woman and is aware That I am aware of my self worth... But with Red flags, what does he want with me? He doesn't take me out on dates (never been) I've only met his family, not friends, we haven't been on a real date. Just to his house and once to mine. he's white, im mixed. (Hes even tried the racist jokes with me) It doesn't feel like a relationship, i feel more like a cuddle buddy... that he gave me the title of "bf and gf" to keep me around. In the beginning he said "i dont want to use you, hurt you or fill a void! I just want a partner in crime! If that makes sense?" His exact words... And he is really sweet and a gentlemen from what I've seen on the surface. He has been hurt in the past relationships and i wanted to be different with us.. So i feel bad for having consider breaking up with him after a short time.. Should I waite? I know eventually he will get bored. He is my first boyfriend/ kiss he knows this. I feel as though he's using me for this advantage and dragging me along for his own pleasure.. Please help, advice and opinions?
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I don't understand what your problem is. Even if he is sexually interested in you, that's 100% normal at this age. He isn't forcing you to have sex with him at all, he's just showing you that he's sexually interested in you.
If you want more to the relationship that just hugging and kissing on his couch, tell him. I can see why you might be bored, but maybe he's that kind of a guy.1