He feels like he can't make me happy and that he is worthless because he can't fix my anxiety. Making it better and helping me during attacks isn't enough for him... and whenever we argue, if I say something or do something, he will over analyze it and take it out of context. Like this may be the most dramatic example, but I said I feel insecure sometimes with my looks and he said that he must be a bad boyfriend because he can't make me feel beautiful.
We are on the verge of breaking up because of it because I just told him if I make him feel worthless because of my anxiety attacks, there's nothing I can do and I told him to think about it but he said he would and that he just feels bad that he can't make me happy and that he's worthless and an idiot.
I mean I feel guilty because I feel like that's my fault but I don't want to lose hope. help?
Most Helpful Guy
It's not your fault he feels that way, he's insecure. Insecurities are personal and usually exaggerated fears, the problem is you can't fix someone who's insecure, they have to resolve it at a point in their lives when they're ready. Even when a supportive partner urges them to confront their insecurities, it doesn't change anything. This type of person is a nightmare to date.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
You can't fix someone's insecurities. Only they can do that. If being around you makes him feel like sh*t for ANY reason (including the ones that are his fault), the relationship has no future.
That's not to say he couldn't just take some time, get over it, and then you could resume the relationship. But the way things are working out now, it' not going to last for anyone.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE