I have the hard time trusting my boyfriend. Just men in general. I always have even if this is my first boyfriend. I am starting to think it has something to do with my self esteem, image and worth. No way all men are cheaters and always lusting over someone else when they got a good one at home. No way, but in my head this is reality…
When me and my boyfriend first start dating I would be okay with him going out clubbing with his friends. I didn't care if he texted me or not. My though was always… He is a grown guy. He controls himself. He makes his own decisions, while he was out I would focus on other stuff (I still do this) This was three years ago.. Lasted for two years into the relationship..
For the past nine months I am noticing that I am getting more disappointed when he wants to go out and club. I get a bit unsure and uncomfortable. I want him to have fun, but after some small episode (telling me about girls that flirts with him, pretty girls adding him on Facebook, talking to girls at night…etc) this trust has kinda vanished. I don't feel that secure anymore.
Some of these things mentioned is just minor things, but after getting to know him better and having a deeper connection.. I feel slightly jealous and bothered this time than I did those two years.. He has never done anything for me to doubt him, he even sends me messages and pictures thought the day "while clubbing out with his friends" (he does it voluntary)… I trust him more then… but still I feel insecure. I know he loves me, he threat me like a queen, post picture of me on his facebook and thinks I am perfect for him. But still I feel insecure. I feel like he is gonna cheat, find someone better, do something stupid (If he fucks up once. I will not take him back.. NOP). I just want to stop feeling this way and trust him 100% and be okay with everything he does.
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hmm... I feel so sad every time i hear something like this. No women deserves to feel unloved... and i guess that is why we need to start focusing on boys when they are young and teach them to be real gentleman (most boys are just left to develop on their own). It would kill me to cheat on my wife. Its so difficult to gauge your situation... if my wife and i have issues like this... we have the kind of relationship where we talk about it and more often that not we understand each other. Try approaching him about your insecurity and see what he has to say.. I have seen cases where guys cheat and some genuinely don't... go with your instincts... i hope it all works out for you.0