So, I broke with an ex awhile ago. She is beautiful and is not used to getting dumped. I never know deal with exes.
I saw her recently and we ignored each other at first. I thought this was rather silly and immature. So, later in the evening, I approached her, asked how she was doing, I offered to buy her a drink (she declined as she already had one, but said I could buy her one later. Later never came as she and I spend the rest of the evening with our respective friends), and I told her that I thought she looked great (she replied by saying the same to me).
Was all this too much? I don't want to be the creepy ex-boyfriend, but I think ignoring is petty.
Would you ladies prefer that an ex (especially an ex that broke up with you) leave you alone completely, wave a hello, or make brief, polite conversation
What makes things even more awkward is that we are in the same church community and have a mutual friend in common.
Ladies, thanks for your thoughts.
Perhaps offering to buy a drink was a bit much. Her birthday was coming up and I wanted to acknowledge that. But, considering I broke up with her last her before bday maybe not. But, I did offer and she was not rude.
Is it even more painful when a guy dumps a woman, especially if the woman is attractive and used to the one doing the dumping. This was the case with my ex.
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I believe it mainly depends on how things ended between you two. If it was a clean breakup then definitely it is okay to still be civil. However, if it ended terribly and there hasn't been any closure than it might be a bit weird. Also, when speaking to her make sure you know where your feelings stand and what the boundaries are. For example, If you don't want her back than make sure you don't give her the wrong idea or if you want to be friends again than make sure you keep the conversation friendly and casual. I hope it helps, good luck :) trust me I've been there I know how it feels!1