Is it possible to fall in love with someone with in days? If so how or why and if not, how come? I think I'm suffering from a broken heart. ... I really liked this one guy but it didn't end the way I wanted it to. For some reason it's taking me a while to get over him. I don't know why. Everytime I think about him I get emotional. When I first met him I felt like I found my other half. I thought we were so similar. But then he told me that he didn't have space for me in his life right now. He told me that I'm a really great person and he enjoyed the time that we spent together but there was no space in his life for me right now. I felt really heartbroken. I thought I would get over it quickly but I didn't. I'm still a bit hurt by it honestly. I thought that maybe i loved him or something. But I often hear that you can't love a person in a short period of time. So I often doubt that as the explination. Can you love someone in a short period of time?
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No. Not love. It can feel like love, yes, but it is a different emotion. It is caused by NRE, new relationship energy. Or, more correctly, by the chemicals released during NRE. This can happen fast, it can happen 'at first glance', where your brain is just flooded with chemicals (dopamine, norepinephidrine, phenylethylamine, serotonin). You are essentially getting high, you are being flooded with amphetamines, stimulants and painkillers at the same time.
This is why it can hurt so badly, so quickly. It can be as bad as going through hard drug withdrawal. NRE is an important step in developing the bonds over time that is needed for love to grow, but it is not love in and of itself. It can sure feel like it at the time though, and it can have an almost obsessive feel to it that makes it hard to shake.
What you are experiencing is essentially a chemical withdrawal in your brain.1