I broke up with a woman last year as humanely as possible, in person and over dinner.
I've seen her around of the past year as we are in the same circle and share a mutual friend.
Over the past year, she and I have wavered between ignoring each other and having friendly conversations. A few months ago, she showed up at the mutual friend's birthday and flirted with guys in front of me. I've maintained the high road throughout all this and have never pulled any similar stunts or been rude to her.
The last time we saw each other we initially ignored each other. In an attempt to display confidence, maturity, and that I had no hard feelings, I approached her. I asked how she was doing, remembered that her birthday was coming up, offered her a birthday drink, and complimented her on her appearance. The whole thing took about 2 minutes and I felt better about myself for doing so.
I'm thinking that perhaps I should leave things on this relatively high note and avoid these future outings where I might run into her. These are social type events and there is a chance I could meet another woman. However, with the ex there, it could make it awkward for me. Plus, my ex is not a bad person (her stunts nothwithstanding). I don't know if she cares, but I wouldn't want to hurt or offend her by flirting with other girls in her presence.
Most Helpful Girl
if you continue to be courteous and chivalrous towards her, i don't think why it should offend her.
she has done the same in the past, and it has been more than a year since you both broke up.
why should you avoid going to places just because there is a bleak chance of you bumping into her
if she is petty enough, she will think that you are avoiding her because you miss her or feel guilty of breaking up with her0
Most Helpful Guy
It certainly seems that you have take the chivalrous high ground and you shouldn't abandon it. Some people think this type of behavior is stupid because it's not rewarded, but it is! It is rewarded every time you look in the mirror and you like who you see.
If seeing her is difficult in any way, then by all means avoid seeing her. It is better to avoid her that to see her and do something that you will later regret.0