my boyfriend actually said that he wanted me to lose some weight. ok, i'm not skinny, i'm 5'5 and weigh 175. BUT, when we first dated, i weighed 190. why go into a relationship thinking i'm fat? he said he can't be with me if i didn't lose weight. i broke up with him. because even if i did lose the weight, i don't want to be with someone so shallow. i've been with him for 3 years, and THAT was the deciding factor on whether or not we'd be together? am i being dramatic? i think i would've been ok if he said we should work out together, but he talked to me like he was disgusted with my weight. is it ok for a guy to talk like that? please be honest!
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I'm not a fan of calling anyone fat; especially if I'm in a relationship with them. When is negative reinforcement a good thing? Ummmmm, NEVER. Also, you said it best, why go into a relationship with someone when you already know they are who they are?
I think it's great you're losing weight, so congratulations on that. But, I hope you're losing weight for you and not because your miserable boyfriend hates himself enough to insult you like that.
Seriously, if he has a particular size girl he wants to be with in mind, then it's a free country and more power to him. But it is a bit silly to start dating someone only to complain about something that he knew damn well existed from the get go.
I hope you stay broken up with him, because I'm not sure what he was expecting you to do. I hate it when people think they can change someone if there's something they don't really like about that person, because that's not the way to go into a relationship.
So, I'll reiterate. It's not okay for someone to be an asshole. Especially if you haven't changed anything about you, but lose weight, like he wanted you to.4