I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year unofficially and a couple of months officially, he is the most amazing man ever and I am truly in love with him. He is madly in love with me too, we had plans of moving in together this summer and had even settled on a house together. I want to marry this man and he does too, we were already taking children together (i have a 2 year old) and we've met both our families. Yes, this is as official as it gets. The problem is that this former fling of mine started texting me again and I didn't ignore him. He is the typical guy that I would have dated back in college, hot and charismatic but a complete player, definitely not a guy I want to settle with. I told him I have a boyfriend and I couldn't hang out with him, yet we kept texting.
A couple of days ago, my boyfriend received some messages from a random # tellling him to look this guy up because I wasn't being honest. I also received a message from the same # telling me I had to tell my boyfriend about my dishonesty (my texting the other guy) or he would find out from them. My boyfriend and I talked about it, I told him about this guy and how he is trying to persuade me and we agreed we were going to get past it. I made the horrible mistake of texting this guy back the next day and the conversation was flirty (i have hooked up with this guy in the past many times). I knew this was going to come back to me (I self-sabotage myself all the time and I don't know why!) anyway the boyfriend saw his messages on my ipad (i deleted the conversation from my phone).
The messages are mixed, one day I tell him to leave me alone because I love my boyfriend and he swears he won't mess it up for me and the next he's sending me naked pics and asking to meet up. I think this guy wants me to break up with my boyfriend and I am falling for his crap, he's never wanted a relationship with me, just hooking up, my boyfriend is very hurt and I don't want to lose him. He's my best friend and i love him, advice?
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Your player-ex has almost succeeded in achieving his goal of destroying your relationship with your boyfriend. You have been a gullible willing bimbo.
I think if you admit to the above to your boyfriend and hand him a list of measures you will take to earn back his trust you can salvage your relationship. You'll need to make your electronic life an open book to your boyfriend. Among other things you'll need to block this player's number and you'll need to show extraordinary loyalty to your boyfriend.0