Well after the season he didn't look for a change and guess what, he is still running this business. Just when I thought that last year was bad, this summer has started out to become the worst. All of the drama and stress brings me down and I can no longer put up with the business. I hit my breaking point when I had to sit in a police station to file a complaint for an hour on him behalf and then spend several hours contacting media, etc. At night sleeping next to him I cry. Lately it's been really bad.
I'd rather he sell it and get a regular job like other people until he has another great business idea. We were engaged and after an angry rage I had, I gave him back his ring. I just don't want to be married to him while he has this business. I hate his business and how it makes me feel.
We haven't had sex for 6 months, we never had a wedding date set, we wanted to have kids this year and that's out the window. I ended up getting so upset with him that I exploded on him. I left afterward and got a room at a hotel to calm down. I sent him an email to let him know calmly these are the things that are important to me and used to be important to us. I thought he was being selffish and our relationship just isn't working out. It was an ultimatem. I told him point blank,
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I suspect that you are old enough and wise enough to know the result of giving him an ultimatum. Usually, ultimatums are given with an expectation of how the other person will respond, and then you can take whatever action you want and point the finger at the other one and say it was all their fault. I am not trying to be overly critical, as I have done it myself.
What you describe is a relationship that probably should have ended a few years ago. Being engaged that long without getting married is a pretense that we engage in to justify certain things, but it usually is also a sign of significant problems.
You don't like him and you don't like your life. You don't respect him and he doesn't respect you. You don't even have lust in your relationship now.
If you are not ready to leave (and I think that you are,) ask yourself what sign you need to see so that you will be convinced that it's over and it is time to move on.
If you leave him, it will be difficult. You were together for a long time and for many years, you assumed that you knew something about the rest of your life. A breakup for you will be traumatic like waking up one morning and discovering that everyone around you is suddenly speaking a different language that you don't know. Make yourself a list of reasons for leaving him and, after you have separated and you are missing "the good old days," pull out your list and read it.
Reach out to your close friends. They want to be there for you and this is when they will feel good about being your friend.
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