About 7-8 mo ago i broke up with my x of 3 years to b with another guy. now it really does seem like it was one of those "the grass looks greener on the other side" kinda deals. Don't get me wrong, i care about my current boyfriend, but not like i do my x. now im having the hardest time getting over him. Some days r better than others, but he's always on my mind. N some days i start crying. We've been through so much together and he knows me better then anyone. I could give him one look and he knew what I'm thinking. We were more then just boyfriend n girlfriend, we were each others best friends. my current boyfriend n i aren't like that. N because my x strted tlking shit about me, my boyfriend doesn't want me to talk to my x. If i did n he found out itd b over between us. But my ex won't even tlk to me because some girl walked outta his house the one n only day i did tlk to him. According to my x tho, she's just some b**ch. n according to his friends he doesn't have a girlfriend. just thinking about my x with another girl makes me jealous. He promised tht we'd still b friends, and well, u can guess how that went. Honestly, some days i wanna just go over to the house to see and tlk to him, but i dont want to b that girl. Shit id be happy having him back as my friend, but I don't know if thts possible. Ugh!! i dont know what to do any more. Advice please.
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I can understand wholeheartedly what you mean here, lucygirl988, when you talk about the "Grass looks greener on the other side" because many times it backfires on you and it... isn't as green on the other side of the fence.
I still have a husband out in Egypt whom I married three years ago. I came back to the states and for some reason or another, I ended up having arelationship with a Coptic Christian because I thought he was closer, could be closer to my heart and that this was the answer to my prayer in getting rid of a LDR... even being married.
I found out within a year that everything I worked so hard in having with my husband was going down the drain and even though we had some problems with him and his family when I had lived there, I now ruined every chance of them ever trusting and believing in me again... to this day, they will not talk to me and my husband is ready to divorce me.
Even if you and your Ex never get back together, don't stay with someone you don't think you will ever be happy with. You are Obviously Not over the Other half and this one is Obviously a Rebound whom you thought was everything your Better half ended up to be after all.
You are Not over him and it may take a lifetime. It might be best to just be your own woman for now, get your thoughts in order and back off in the relationship you are in or it will end up going down a beaten path and end up a War of the Roses.
I believe that if you were free to be your own boss once more, you could be friends with not just with the Ex but with anyone and it might make it easier to see where you are going and what is going to be in the cards next for you. For now, it's not fair to your current cutie and not fair to you.
Good luck. xx0