Serious answers only. This could affect my life and two men that I love. I've been married 13 years. I love the man I married, but am IN LOVE with another man who lives out of state. The man I LOVE will not be with me in any way, shape, or form unless I am unattached. Truthfully, I don't want to be alone, and I'm afraid to divorce and have that happen. I also don't want to hurt the man I'm married to, because he still loves me and I believe is IN LOVE with me. We don't have sexual relations anymore, and haven't in years. All I do is dream about the man I'm IN LOVE with, day and night. He consumes me. I feel my life is being wasted and that I should follow my heart, but there is a lot at stake. I'm scared to be out on my own again, mostly financially. Together me and my husband live comfortably. I'm scared to leave that situation. With the man I LOVE, there are no guarantees. I want to be with him, but I don't truly know if that will ever happen, even if I'm unattached. I'm scared and don't know what to do. We are all in our late 40's, so I feel like it's now or never - that I must choose a path to go down.
PS. no, I didn't cheat on my husband, unless one considers being friends with the other man cheating
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You have probably heard all of your life here, dear: The grass isn't greener on the other side of th efence. I, for one, know this only too well. I married a man from Egypt and after returning to th estates, with the problems we had faced while I was living out there with him and his family, I decided one day to Explore the deep waters and ended up with a Coptic Christan living near to my house but He, in fact, was Not in my own heart like my own husband was. I risked it all, on a whim and a prayer, and today, my husband's family has disowned me and my husband, who will always love me unconditionally, is trying to find it in his heart to divorce me because I haven't been to visit him in a long while, nor have decided to live with him.
Think it over carefully that you yourself may be treading high waters with a marriage and a guy whom you have known longer and the chance with this new romance that may not pan out and... in the end, you just may find yourself Completely alone.
If you are having problems in your marriage or are not happy, maybe it is best to start with some guidance from another end who can best assist you both. And if you feel you really don't want to be with him and want to try this new venture out, then go for it, risk it all and let God guide you in what He feels is meant to be and best for you.
Yes, you are right when you say there is 'A lot at stake.' Nothing in life is for sure but death and taxes.
Good luck. xx0