I have a 4yr old and me and his dad broke up with me 4 months ago after a 4 yr relationship. His dad and I have been on and off and last Aug. we tried to work things out and it failed miserably! Any who we have a shared custody arrangement where his dad gets him a week and then I get him a week. The break up is still fresh and my heart still sensitive. The thing is that when my toddler comes back home he will mention female names. I try to be strong, but it reallyhurts. Like today I was giving him a bath and he said so and so washed him and was telling me how they washed his pee pee. I know I shouldn't get upset about this, but I cannot help but feel that it's too soon for my ex to be letting someone else bath him etc. The thing is that whenever I get my son back from my ex after a wk he always comes back with his hair matted etc and nails very long.
Im just frustrated because the breakup is still fresh to me. By the way he and I were never married.
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You need to set rules the way you want see them down
with your son, if it means going through the courts than do it
but you need communicate with your ex or these things will
continue , no communication than things you dislike and
effects you will continue to break you down but you got be
strong for your son to stop these things from happening
you got lay the cards on the table on how you want them
to be cause if not than it will never happen and your ex
needs to be aware on how you feel and if you don't want
other females bathing him than tell your ex it's his job
also tell him as the father he needs to make sure his sons
hair is not matted and that his nails are cut and that he is clean.0