Also, if the abuser wants you back, how can you stay strong and keep them away and not feel some weird attachment to them due to the trauma?
Most Helpful Guy
You have to find every way to keep that person out of your life. Block their number, turn any and all social media to private, hell if it's that bad get a restraining order. Removing them completely is really the only way to recover.
Getting over the abuse takes an insane amount of time and willpower. I've know women that have been there and the few that bounced back fully it took them a few years. The ones that didn't recover became neurotic messes with massive trust issues. Always remember what happened wasn't your fault and that you did not deserve any of it.
Most Helpful Girl
Focus on the reason that's keeping you away from him. I've been in the same situation and I wanted to go back to him even though I knew how wrong it was. I assume that you weren't happy in that relationship, how can one be happy with an abusive relationship? Focus on that, your happiness. If your best friend was in this situation would you want her to go back? Do you think your family would be happy to see you with a guy like this and would you like him to be the father of your children? Hopefully not. Focus on a brighter future with a guy who will treat you right. When you have moved on you will understand it's like being a free again. Time will heal and you might need some counselling after something likes this because it does a lot of damage.