My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years, I'm 27 and he's 25 years old, we had plans for our future together and all, he always said I was the love of his life and that I was his perfect woman. Until 3 weeks ago when I found out he had been cheating on me with this girl from work he met a couple of months ago (I believe the affair started about 2 weeks before I found out). He said that he loved me and that our relationship was the best thing that ever happened to him but he had screwed it up so he coudn't be with me anymore, he cried and said that it was all his fault, that I was perfect, ( I have never seen him cry before), and he also said that he needs to be alone right now, and I asked if he wanted to be with this other girl (who also has a boyfriend but right now he lives in another city ) and he said that he has feelings for her but doesn't know if it can work out. We have seen each other a couple of times after the break up and have ended up having sex, and he has been very sweet and we've had a great time but remain broken up. So what do you think? Does he still have feelings for me? Is he just confused? If he Likes this other girl why are they not together? Why do I still care about him if he broke my heart?
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what should you do? be logical and stop tolerating in treating you like that. Love and respect yourself more..
He cheated on you. It doesn't matter how long you've been together and never believe on "sweet words".. Believe in what he is showing to you.. Action speaks louder than words..
For now, I think that he is just using your for sex and it remains like that because he is happy receiving the benefits..
Think of this, if he is truly inlove and happy with you, he would not cheat on you. He would control himself not to fall in temptation with another girl.
The girl and him are not together because we never know the reason (only both of them knows) and its none of your business anymore, its between them.
You still care because you cannot accept the truth what he did to you and the truth hurts. No one wants to be hurt so you don't wanna accept the truth, hence, you don't wanna let him go (which I think is not good).
Again, be logical. Stop tolerating his behavior. you're showing him that its okay to cheat because you're still attached with him and opening your legs for him.
Forgive yourself, forgive him. Take it as a lesson learned and move on even it hurts. You will be healed as time pass by.0