My ex and I had a pretty nasty break up. I told her that a coworker said she was using me. And she was mad because I didn't tell her right when I happened. A few weeks passed and we were talking again. A few times she had mentioned she didn't want to be with anyone right now. I was fine with that but like all ex's being friends my feelings started to come back. I spent 5 out of 7 nights with her. She made a comment about me not being just a friend to her in regards of how my ex-wife treats me. Then after the holiday, she tells me she feels I don't understand that she just wants to be friends and it's nothing person (which we all know it is). I immediately fire back with "I'm sorry I can't be just friends with you. I care too much about you". She then got mad told me she sees how much I really care and that's a lot for understanding (obviously sarcastically). Why would she act like that? I'm not so dense I don't understand she still has feelings but I guess she doesn't understand how hard it is not to act the way things used to be. Touching, kissing, etc . I have spoken to her since then and plan to keep it that way. Keep in mind, I treated her like a queen. Gifts, babysat, and so on and never expected anything in return. I was an extremely nice guy to her and she has never had that before. Comes from many abusive relationships. I also never tried to kiss or anything after the breakup. Please help me understand this.
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It's because she wants it her way. She still wants you in her life just not the way that you to be. The way you gave her everything or acted on every whim you basicay spoiled her and she's use to you being her chew toy.
When I say that I don't mean she was just using you because she wasn't she did developed feelings for you and I'm sure she still has some. It's just she wants to act as if it never happened and go back to the way it use to be. She wants you in her life but she doesn't want to deal with a relationship. She feels that you're not listening to her or being a good friend because you're not putting her wishes first. She asked you to be a friend and be there for hee in that way but you still want more. Which makes her feel uncomfortable but she doesn't want to lose you.
Which is interesting because she's not being a very good friend either because she isn't respecting your wishes, considering your feelings, and putting her own a side. If you really can't be around her then don't if she really wants you as a friend or once you get over her she'll cone around.1