My ex and I had a pretty nasty break up. I told her that a coworker said she was using me. And she was mad because I didn't tell her right when I happened. A few weeks passed and we were talking again. A few times she had mentioned she didn't want to be with anyone right now. I was fine with that but like all ex's being friends my feelings started to come back. I spent 5 out of 7 nights with her. She made a comment about me not being just a friend to her in regards of how my ex-wife treats me. Then after the holiday, she tells me she feels I don't understand that she just wants to be friends and it's nothing person (which we all know it is). I immediately fire back with "I'm sorry I can't be just friends with you. I care too much about you". She then got mad told me she sees how much I really care and that's a lot for understanding (obviously sarcastically). Why would she act like that? I'm not so dense I don't understand she still has feelings but I guess she doesn't understand how hard it is not to act the way things used to be. Touching, kissing, etc . I have spoken to her since then and plan to keep it that way. Keep in mind, I treated her like a queen. Gifts, babysat, and so on and never expected anything in return. I was an extremely nice guy to her and she has never had that before. Comes from many abusive relationships. I also never tried to kiss or anything after the breakup. Please help me understand this.
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its too painful for her to be close to you.. why should she have to be? its her choice and it sounds like it was her choice to end it with you. you are not respecting her boundaries. she's told you she wants to be single and wants only friendship from you but you spend 5 out of seven nights with her? your crousing her lines. she reiterates that you wanna be friends, you don't accept it so then she gets mad. she told you what she wanted and needed and you didn't listen. its hard for her cos there's feelings there but she doesn't wanna be round you. your not being fair. treating her well isn't an automatic ticket to her vagina. just bc you haven't tried to kiss her doesn't mean your not crossking the lines in other respects. if you cared about her you should listen to her and leave her alone0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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