I'm going through a breakup of sorts - very long story (we weren't together but we were really close - I think he was in love and gave up after realizing we couldn't be together in his current state, God willing).
I talked about it with my friend - based on the situation and his brother's not-so-subtle attempts to get me to move on, my friend said, "I think he's trying to forget that you exist."
I can understand "he doesn't want to talk to you" or "he's trying to push memories out of his mind" but "he's trying to forget that you *exist*"?
is it just me or does that sound to you like severe heartbreak? :/ he used to joke about the future and similar, said if I ever left he thought he would be so sad he wouldn't be able to do much for about a week (which kind of happened), etc. (Just to clarify I am heartbroken too - I really loved him, we just couldn't be together right now. he was my best friend as well.) I feel terrible because I may have caused him extra pain by trying to solve the situation - I didn't realize it was this severe.
Also does the strategy of being as invisible as I can to him sound helpful? his brother specifically suggested I just forget about him and act like he doesn't exist ("that's what he's done to you.")
I really don't want to explain the situation by the way.
Most Helpful Guy
Well my ex wife left me and pretty much acted as if I didn't exist. She wouldn't give me the time of day. We were even envolved in some projecfs together. And that was hard as hell to be there with her. So I suppose he is doing the same thing. It also may be depression as well. Or he is angry.. at himself or you.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Most Helpful Girl
He's trying to make the pain go away that's all. It isn't that he didn't love you I'm sure he did but remembering you probably takes him back to the break up so he would rather just forget that you exist. Which is not a easy thing to do so I suggest you don't do that. While he's trying to forget that you exist.. It's not going to happen but he's going to start thinking about all the memories you guys had and he's gonna start missing you and eventually contact you again or just accept the fact that you were in his life for a good reason..0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE