He dumped me 3 months ago because he said he lost interest. We were together for 3 years and I couldn't just pretend he doesn't exist anymore so I accepted to stay friends and get some closure. Even though I was still in love with him I really wanted to try it out as friends. It didn't work because I don't like how he treats me as "friend". When he would initiate hanging out I would always be up for it, but when I initiate something he sometimes ignores or is not up for it. He would talk for hours about his day, but never ask me how was my day. He acts like nothing happened and he is different, not the guy I know. He also didn't wish me happy birthday because he got angry at me and jealous that I flirted with some other guy and he acted like I did something wrong. I mean helloooo you dumped ME! Anyways I don't like this hot/cold acting and I feel like I'm treating him too good for how he broke my heart and how he treats me now. I give him attention and I'm always there. Basically I feel like crap and I want to stop this. I don't enjoy his company anymore. How do I end this in hope he realizes he can't take me for granted? Will saying no and being cold work? I'm fine with both us loosing all contact and him changing, whatever may be may be.
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Just because two people Break up doesn't mean they can't and don't Make up and that it's Good-bye forever, my love. And with an "EX" who still Marks an X in your softie spot here, dear, there is usually motive in mind when the time comes and With This--------I accepted to stay friends and get some closure.
You have found out that on top of the relationship that went bad, he is also no friend but just someone who keeps you at arm's length, which is harm's way to you and your heart, because you are a convenience that he still feels comfy with due to your history that you both have had together and yes... takes you for granted because you are always there for him and he knows it.
From where I am sitting, not sure if you have Friends with benefits, I can only speculate, but one thing is for sure, you need to let go of this skeleton which probably should have stayed in the closure closet.
However, if you begin a new beguine, just for laughs and giggles, play your cards right and show him you are your own straw boss and will not stand for it, he may just jump through a few hoops he has never jumped through before and who knows... he could end up to be at your beckoning call by your next birthday.
If you just feel it's time to say Good-bye, then let go and let God and move on to someone who wants the same things as you do and... let the past float in the wind.
Good luck. xx0