Anyway it’s been almost two months of misery and his brother has been consistently advising me to just “forget about him - that’s what he’s done to you” - and finally it occurred to me that him forgetting didn’t mean “you meant nothing,” but actually meant “you meant so much to him that it hurts him to remember” (God willing). I ran into him two weeks ago or so at an event and he looked intensely miserable just being near me. It was awful - the closest I can think of is a mug shot, that's how bad he looked.
A friend listened to the entire situation and said “I think he’s trying to forget that you exist.”
My question - how awful do you think he feels/how much do you think I meant to him if he legit is trying to forget I exist? Also, how long do you think something like that might take to get over for him? Also, any tips to help (like “avoid him,” “be civil” vs “ignore him”, etc.)? As my friend said, “If you really love him you’ll want the best for him and want him to get over this.”