- Text her and say sorry to hear about you family death
- Say nothing, no response
- Other, what should I do AHHH!
Most Helpful Girl
I'm not 100% sure what you should do but it might sound like she wants to work things out. If anything you should at least tell her your sorry for her lose during this difficult time. After that if you really want to move on then you need to block her and delete her from your life so you don't get tempted or receive any calls or messages from her. Other wise ask her what she wants from you, ask her if she wants to try again and see if you can get answers but that is really up to you at this point.
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds to me like she's trying to manipulate you, and her erratic behavior in attempting to get a response from you has gone well beyond her "sick relative". Did she say which relative it was? Not that losing anyone in your family, be it close or distant, is ever easy to accept, I just don't see how you're the only "shoulder" for her to cry on.
Like you said, she dumped you, and you're respecting her decision. It seems now she's no longer in control, she's losing self-control and is pulling out all the stops at typical manipulation techniques. Non-stop calling that turns into a situation where she uses your compassion via an emotional trigger (family member illness) to get a reply from you. Then she proceeds to name calling, once her whining with the violin playing in the background doesn't work, also saying she doesn't want to see or talk to you again, which you say "fine", but when that doesn't work, she pretends like she never called you names or said she didn't want anything to do with you and proceeds back to step one, which if you ignore her will quickly turn to the angry name calling again.
You're not a bad person or ignoring her. Of course it's sad and tragic her family member died, but that's not your problem. You can feel sorry for her loss, but you don't have to rent a plane with a banner expressing your condolences. You owe her nothing. Remember, she broke up with you, and you're not the only person in her life she can reflect on the death of her family member with. If anything another relative would be more appropriate. In essence, she's wanting to use you for her benefit, even though she seems to forget the fact she dumped you. Sorry, but she really shouldn't be able to have it both ways; especially when you're processing being broken up with and she's not letting you heal.
I may be sounding a bit harsh, but what will be next with her? An earthquake made her hit her knee and she needs you to call her and talk about it so it will hopefully start feeling better? Will she remember something she left at your place she suddenly can't live without? I'm guessing yes. I've dealt with people like this before, and the only way to move on is to ignore them and cut them off.