I've been trying to focus on other things all day but I can't do it. I hate crying, specially if I'm not alone (my sister can hear me) and I don't wanna feel as miserable for too long.
I wanna get back together but don't know if that's gonna be possible :( so how long did it take you?
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Everyone has different times for healing. Some people start grieving the relationship before it is over, some people were never in love, some people don't get attached, and some people never get over it.
They say that it takes about half the length of the relationship to recover.
I was in a relationship with my ex for about 5 and a half years. We were together for 2 and a half solidly and then we hit a rocky patch and the rest we were on and off. As you guessed, I didn't get over him through our off patches. When we did finally break up for good, it took me a little over a year to get over him. I didn't really miss him, I was too busy being angry at him, but to get to the point where I was ready to be in a new relationship and not bring anger into it was a long time. I got into a relationship about a year and a half after our break up.
As horrible as it is, let yourself cry. Cry it out, and one day you won't have any tears left. It's important to get the emotions out now before they follow you and haunt you. Try to get out with friends, don't look at his online profile (because we both know you are sneaking peeks occasionally). I got my friend to change my facebook password so I couldn't look at his profile and see what he was doing. It gave me important time away that I needed to stop obsessing. Take up a new hobby. Do something you used to enjoy. Fill your days with seeing people and doing things and you'll start to focus on the things you are doing rather than him. Go out with your sister. Nobody is saying you need to go and date someone asap, but distract yourself.
Remember you are your own person. You need to look after yourself and if you want to be with him again he isn't going to fall in love with your red eyes and blotchy skin. He'll fall in love with your smile. Enjoy yourself and don't close your eyes to someone else. Experience life, have some silly truth or dare snogs, be 18, and whatever happens was meant to be. You'll be fine.