that girl moves on at the speed of light, hell she didn't even need one month to get over me, she said she is with another guy a month ago, and since then trying to talk was so difficult, 2 weeks ago I sent her a text and she replied that I'd better send an email cause I'm making her trouble, she wanted me to believe that her guy could be reading what I send her although she let anyone send her flirting texts and talking to her in that way when I was with her, and when I tried to object she threatened me with breaking up... but the reasons she broke up with me were different from that, she just said that she doesn't feel the connection anymore (moved in to a different city and didn't find the time to talk to me like before on phone and online) and then said there are better men than me to her that she likes how they talk and behave, the night she told me that she compared me to her new guy and said I'm the worst boyfriend she ever had and he is the nicest ever... since that time I tried to talk to her and she would only reject me without a single sensible conversation, until what happened 2 weeks ago and I didn't try to contact her anymore, I was sending her long emails before that all the time and telling how I feel in them and such, she never replied till this moment, I have no clue how to get in touch with her once again or get her back, or how a girl I've been with for over a year replaces me in a blink of an eye. It was mostly a long distance thing between us and I believe she lives with her new boyfriend now, I have no clue if that's true or not...
can I do anything? did she make me believe that she has a new boyfriend just to make me hate her and stop all the contact? why did she do that and she was telling me that I'm the best she could find? any solutions from experienced people here would be appreciated, I need solutions to affect her or at least make her feel bad about what she did, and no I don't know her address at the moment. She used to hide everything from me and know everything about me, I know I've been naive, but I thought love was built on trust that never fades. any help dear friends
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One of the hardest things for a person to learn is that the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship ends eventually. She is thinking that this new guy is better than you or treats her better than you did because they are still in that first, initial phase. Unfortunately, she is going to have to learn that for herself.
I know it is hard, I am trying to get my ex back right now too! I tried really hard to "make" him see that we do have a great relationship, but in the end, they have to realize this by themselves.
Also, she is probably trying to fill the void of you with this other guy so she doesn't have to deal with the loneliness. I used to do this myself, but I finally saw that it is just a vicious cycle that only I had the power to stop.
She knows that you are still trying to get her back, so she still "has you." This is where I am in my relationship too... and I am desperately trying to get myself to just not contact him at all. Believe me, I know it is hard.. but like I said, she is the one who has to realize what she lost... and it is hard for her to do that when she technically hasn't "lost" you yet.
Good luck... I hope everything works out for you!2
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