This girl I've been seeing for a few months says she thinks it's best we stop seeing each other for a while as she can't give me what I want sexually. Before we met she was with an abusive partner for about 3 months who beat her. She said she didn't realise how much this damaged her till we started seeing each other. She said she has no sexual desire at the moment but is very attracted me and feels guilty as we have only slept together once and have been in bed together many times. She said she needs some time to figure things out and said she understands if i start dating again as she doesn't want me to waste my time waiting for her. My question is, if she was with the right partner wouldn't this not happen? I feel somehow this is my fault, or maybe this is an easy way to let me go? I'm so bloody confused! But can't help feeling I am some what to blame as she said she loves spending time with me but she just can't give me what I need sexualy at the moment. What does that even mean? I feel like what she is saying is believable as domestic abuse obviously seriously affects people but I can't help thinking it's an excuse as if she likes me that much we would try and work things out?
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it sounds like a bunch of bull and a win win for her. she sounds like she is using you here is the two outcomes i see happening
1. she doesn't like having sex with you and with this excuse if she stays she has a free pass for not having sex with you but still gets all the benefits of being a girlfriend (free food, free stuff, attention, etc)
2. if she breaks up with you she never really liked you in the first place and this is an attempt to save face and not look like a bitch for the real reason of dumping you. here's why its her saving face notice she immediately went and blamed someone else for her actions and how she didn't try to work out your relationship at all. not only that but notice how open ended she is leaving the break up she wants you to be the one to chose leave or stay but since you're making the choice she shares none of the accountability.
its a lose lose situation for you.0