I was dating this guy about a month and a half, nothing exclusive, but we went out a bunch of times and things were going well (I thought). We had talked about hanging out one weekend and he said he would call, but never did. I didn't hear from him at all so a week later I called him but there was no answer. Its been a week now again and I still haven't heard anything. I am starting to think that he must have lost interest and is not going to call back but I don't understand? How can a guy take out a girl a number of times, be the one initiating things most of the time (I did as well but in the beginning it was mostly him) and then just not call, even if it was to say that he is no longer interested. I understand if we only went out 2 times but after 6 or 7? My main question is that I just don't understand and was wondering how I am supposed to find closure in this situation when I thought things were going well? I feel like I should text or message him saying something brief but then again, I kind of already did that by calling last week.
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ive been there..i think a million girls have...from my experience there is no such thing as closure, when most guys break up with a girl they never really tell the truth why theyre leaving her, or why they didn't call back, usually its not to hurt your feelings, or they don't know how to express their feelings or emotions, guys suck at emotions and don't like confrontation, because they don't know how to act or what to say, sometimes they don't even know what they want...so they choose the easy way out and just stop calling, and stop giving you any type of attention. If theyre a jerk theyll say a cheesy line like 'its not you its me' or 'im not ready for a relationship' or 'you deserve someone better'
its common, its really cruel...and it hurts...because it makes us wonder...like WTF HAPPENED? but all you have to do is realize that this guy is immature, doesn't know how to be a man and do it the right way, honest way, and is definitely not worth another single minute of your time. Once you come to the conclusion how you deserve someone better, someone more MATURER AND MANLIER, who is honorable in how he treats people,then your closure in itself will be you moving on.
best of luck =)0