Not going to write a book about our past relationship, but about 3 weeks ago I decided to finally stop the toxicity my ex was feeding me on and off for two years. He broke up with me two weeks prior before the end of May telling me it was OVER for good. Then proceeded to emotionally play with my feelings going from I love yous to straight ignoring me. Anyways, since he refused to confront me in person because he broke up with me through the phone.. I wrote him a letter put all his things in a bag and left it all in his mailbox and I never looked back. I was done feeling sick all the time, crying over someone like that. Done.
Today morning he texted him telling me he was sorry.
Since then, I have really started to let him go. No more crying. No more suffering. I love the place I'm at now.
So what exactly do I say?
Because I don't even know what he's sorry for.
Do i even respond?
- Ignore himVote A
- Ask him "what for?"Vote B
- Reply?Vote C
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It's hard to deal with manipulative people because you just don't know the games they are going to play. Personally, I'd say don't bother responding. If he leaves you alone, awesome. If he becomes a stalker, or keeps sending you messages, just let him know that he's the one who broke up with you and no amount of sorrys is going to fix the issues. He told you it was over for good so let him know you're okay with that.
Someone close to me was in a relationship with a manipulative guy, always being told they dressed too slutty (which they didn't, not even close), not allowed to hang out with friends, not allowed to go out, told they didn't do enough, etc... When she finally had enough and built up a little confidence, he tried to play the "I'm dying" card, then the suicide card. He started following her around till her dad stepped in and told him to stay away.
You won't gain anything by keeping any form of contact going, so only reply if you need to get through to him that he needs to stay away. Best way to let go is to break ties, take some time to heal and pursue some personal interests until you find the right guy. So have the courage to stick to your guns. There are better guys out there. Unless you need some peace of mind, don't reply... you have nothing to gain at this time.3