Everything seemed great. One month in she surprised me with a hotel suite, a couple of weeks later she brought over her coffee maker to leave at my house (I don't drink coffee), she would stay at my place multiple nights, she talked about weddings and a future together (I was happy to talk about it. But she always instigated the convo). I got in a car accident, and she insisted that I use her car instead of a rental, and introduced me to her mom that same week. she stayed at my house one night, everything went well, she even hung out for a while at my house when I went to work. She went home to her mom's house that weekend we talked regularly the entire time. 4 days after staying at my house, we had plans to go out, she texts me, tells me she doesn't want to go out to dinner and that I should come over her place and that she has a lot on her mind. I show up, she hugs and kisses me like normal, and doesn't bring up what's bothering her until after I ask (45 mins later). Says she isn't as happy as she thinks she should be, that I treated her better than any other guy and that she appreciated that I don't play games with her. At the end of the night, she kissed me multiple times, tells me it's going to be hard not to talk to me, and to let her know that I got home safely. We spoke a 2nd time in person, she made irrational justifications for why she did things that appeared like commitment. She again kissed me multiple times, and held my hand as I drove her home. Why would she dump me if things seemed to be going well? Why would she leave her coffee maker, spare car keys, and clothes at my house, only to dump me 4 days later? When we broke up, I asked her when she would be coming to get her stuff, she said "soon" and would let me know. It's been 2 months and she still hasn't come yet. Why would she not come get her stuff, yet tell me she would come? Is she leading me on with her actions of kissing me? Why did she appear to be committed then suddenly pull away?
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There's no way to know her reasons for sure but the fact is whatever it was made her decide she doesn't want to be with you. We don't always understand what is going on in the other person's head and it's impossible to try to decide. We don't have control over them or their thoughts. It is what it is so it's essentially useless to try to ask why it happened. Maybe she met someone? Maybe she just isn't feeling that connection anymore? Maybe she wants to be single? There's really no way of being 100%sure so you have to take it for what it is and that is that she decided she doesn't want to be with you anymore in a romantic way. I think her kissing you is just a result of lust and confusion. She doesn't know what she wants. She might also hope that by doing that she's keeping her foot in the door for the the day it suits her needs to come back. Some people are really strange and you'll just never be able to figure them out completely.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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she seems problematic. i knew a gorgeous and professionally successful female doctor who has serious issues. she is 40 and still unmarried for one reason. whenever somenone is kind to her in the relationship she breaks up within months, her twisted brain is wired to like assholes that use and manipulate her and lead her on in a fbuddy relationship.. .0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE