Ok so I cheated on my gf! And our prom is coming up! She wants me to be her first kiss at prom but I don't deserve that kiss for what I did. She will wonder why I won't kiss her. Then my friends will get involved and they will want to know. Then I will have no choice but to tell them and ruin everyones prom night! I will tell hef eventually but prom is not the time! I kerp trying to think of reasons why I won't kiss her. But I can't think of anything.
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I'm trying to figure out what degree of cheating you actually did. If she's reserving her first kiss to be with you this tells me you and her haven't even had sex yet. Was your cheating just by kissing another girl or more?
Anyway, people deserve the truth or she will find out later and be even more mad that you lied and that will be her prom memory. Let her be in control of her emotions and how she wants to deal with it. Tell her you understand if she needs time, but you had to tell her so because you screwed up and are trying to right a wrong by knowing she deserves the truth.
You can start out by telling her you have to talk. Say that you love her and want to remain with her, you feel what you have to say is going to hurt her, but it needs to be said. Tell her you're sorry and you will do whatever it takes to make it up to her. Then do it. If she doesn't want to be with you, then respect that because you are ultimately taking her choice away by keeping this as a secret. You are preventing her from maybe even finding someone who respects and loves her and might be a better guy for her if you think this selfishly for keeping it a secret. But she must know. Even if you lose in the end, this whole thing will be a big life lesson.
I'm curious to what degree you cheated, because if there wasn't even sex to be had between you both, she might easily be upset but forgive you.0